Stop Trying to be Perfect Because Your Best is Good Enough
Are you tired out trying to be perfect, instead of just being happy to do your best in life?
If so, it’s time to ease the stress and stop your endless pursuit of perfection.
Chasing perfection is exhausting.
We put ourselves under unbearable pressure when we aim to be the perfect version of who we are.
And, this quest can only bring disappointment… because being perfect is an impossible dream.
For many years, I wasted far too much time and energy trying to be the perfect son/ pupil/ student/ employee/ friend, etc. I’d go above and beyond what was necessary so I could achieve what I thought was perfection in these areas of my life.
I held myself up to sky-high standards that no one else judged me on. I didn’t want to be less-than-perfect in anything I did.
These were precious moments which would’ve been so much better devoted to being myself.
That is, someone who does their best, rather than someone always trying to be perfect.
I realized that it’s ok not to be perfect, because doing your best is good enough.
Are You a Perfectionist?
I guess you could call me a ‘recovering perfectionist’.
There are many people out there who’d say they were perfectionists. Maybe you’re one as well.
Perfectionists don’t simply want to do their best. No, that would be far too easy.
They want to go beyond what is seen as exceptional. Yet, even this will never be enough. For perfectionists are never content with what they produce. They think they could always have done a better job in some way.
No level of achievement can ever satisfy the perfectionist.
The Pursuit of Perfection is a Wild Goose Chase
It’s like hunting for the pot of gold at the end of a rainbow. Perfection is an illusion.
We have a vague idea of what ‘being perfect’ looks like but, when we get close, the idea moves somewhere else. The bar keeps getting raised, and the goalposts are forever moving.
We can never catch up with perfection, never have it in our grasp.
This is why constantly going after perfection is a great strain on us, both physically and mentally. There is no break from pushing yourself on. No chance to be happy with what you’ve done.
If you always try to be perfect, doing your best is never good enough.
Giving Up On Perfection Doesn’t Mean Settling for Less
Some people might say that it’s selling yourself short not to strive to be perfect in life; that a person lacks ambition if they don’t seek personal perfection at all times.
But, when does the perfectionist ever stop seeking a higher level of performance? When have they ever done enough?
I’m not suggesting you aim low in life, or that you don’t try your utmost to get what you set out to achieve. You should always put your heart and soul into everything you do.
Being half-hearted will only ever give you less than 50% of what is possible.
What I do think is that having an attitude where being perfect is the only option will inevitably lead to unhappiness and a lack of fulfilment in life.
Think of it this way: When you set yourself the target of doing your best, you will never fall short. If you’ve tried your best at something, you’ve succeeded in trying your best – no matter what else happens. Any other desired outcome follows on as a result of this fact.
You might not get the good result you hoped for, but you still did everything you could. That can’t be taken away from you.
This can be a great comfort to us.
When things go wrong, at least you did your best.
I’m sure you’ve consoled yourself with this morale booster many times. It has a bitter-sweet taste, though it still remains true.
When you give up on trying to be perfect, you gain freedom.
You can rest reassured with the knowledge that you did everything you possibly could to achieve a positive outcome.
No one – not even you – should expect any more from you than that.
What do you think about the pursuit of perfection? Is doing your best in life good enough?
Please share your thoughts in the comments section below. I’d love to hear from you.